One of the most freeing feelings ever is coming to the realisation that you ARE enough. Yes you, yourself and only you. So much of the time we spend worrying about the moves we make, what we say and do & if that person likes us or not.
There is so much power in simply not giving a fuck.
To an extent of course. I'm not taking about being rude or intentionally hurting people's feeling but instead just doing you (if you haven't read my blog 'F*** budget' this will help you to better understand what I mean by this.
Never beg to be treated a certain way. You are treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent - always remember this.
Real confidence in knowing your own worth - which means never chasing. If someone doesn't see that for themselves, that's okay, they will in time. Have confidence in this. Actions speak volume, words speak nothing. Keep doing your thing, living your life. Genuinely do the things that make you excited to wake up in the morning. Have goals & focus on yourself - the rest will fall into place whilst you're busy designing & living your life.
Remember you came into this world alone and you'll leave it alone. It's inevitable. So never ever give anyone the keys to the lock of your happiness. Once you realise that only you can make yourself happy, everything will just click. Imagine giving your power away to someone else, allowing them to have full control over you... That's sad. Don't depend on anyone in life (only your Grandma), expectations always lead to disappointments. Rely on yourself & take full responsibility for what you attract into your life & what you choose to put up with. That's the secret to peace my friends. You cannot control what happens to you in life but you can control how you think & what you choose to do. Choice is the keyword here. Everything is a choice. Don't play the victim - no one respects that. Never feel sorry for yourself, and if you do, buy a tub of Ben & Jerry's, eat it all, then get over it!
Number 1 thing to remember is: Don't take anything personally. People can only meet you as far as they've met themselves, therefore if you aren't getting what you need or want from a person don't feel bad or like you aren't enough. 'I'm sorry but it's you, not me'. Understand that everyone in life is on their own path and just learn to trust the timing of your life. Have a little faith in the unknown, that for me is so exciting. I always believe that if you want something enough you will get it, have patience, but never wait around for anyone to make you happy.
Time is the only thing that cannot be bought. So stop giving yours away so freely to those undeserving of it. Do only the things that bring you peace, positivity and joy. Take chances on people & yes be vulnerable at times because that's authentic living but do not beg - whether this be for time, attention, security, validation, whatever it may be. Stop it. I, myself have learnt the hard way so this post is my lesson to you.
Learn to say no to people, whether it is a favour someone is asking of you that you know you will not be able to fulfil or frankly just don't want to. Or if someone who drains your energy wants to spend time with you, or you've been invited to go out but you'd much prefer to go to the gym and focus on your goals or stay on the couch binge-watching dateline or murder investigation documentaries for a bit of much needed you-time
- THEN DO IT.